Sha writes:
“Dear Dr Laura, hope you are well – I have a specific question. About 3 months ago, something very strange occurred but, I’m going along my life, taking challenges as they come (like most of us I guess), and trying to better myself every day by working on things we want to improve in our life – work, health, where we are heading in life – and that generally feels good, when you are on the right path.
I think I was consciously looking at what I wanted from my life, and finding my real purpose. Then in November last year, I had a specific thought or idea which lead to a very empowering feeling in which I felt my purpose and felt truly connected and it felt really good. I must’ve had this thought vaguely twice before and then once quite strongly when I was about to fall asleep back in November.
After having this thought/vision and then its associated feelings which had meaning for me, it made me feel very empowered. I felt like I could take on the world, get really motivated with work, get fitter than I already am, and I just felt connected to something bigger and things just became clearer for me, on how I needed to work on my goals going ahead and it gave me the motivation to feel and think I had it in my hands, and I would achieve my goals. I envisioned all the things I would do now.
Usually when I have thoughts or feelings, I would write them down, but I didn’t because it felt so natural to me. It came from my heart, so I thought I wont forget this feeling or thought. Truth is, I have not really had this amazing feeling until now or I might have had similar feeling when I was 16 years old.
As I drifted off that night, I thought I’d remember this thought the next morning, because it’s a part of me, and it feels so comfortable and so empowering as it’s coming from deep within me. But guess what? I didn’t or I cant remember it. I remember the thoughts as a result of having that feeling, but can’t seem to remember what that exact thought or feeling was. And I know it was an exact thought, because I saw it in my mind and felt it in my heart, and it meant certain things to me. And its so strange , I’ve gone over the thoughts that played through my mind that week, and then that day, but I can’t seem to nail that feeling and I really wish I could, because it gave me purpose, made me feel connected to maybe something bigger than me, and it felt so good and empowering.
On the flip side, it could be such a natural thought that I am unable to remember it now, but since then I have tried and tried to remember it and I’m not getting any further. I really want to remember this feeling as it felt so empowering. It gave me a strong purpose that I was looking for and I felt connected to a deeper meaning something higher. Since then, I also feel a bit lost without that feeling as I felt it and acknowledged it and wanted to use it in my life and then I forgot it !I think its teaching me something. Maybe I need to be more patient , go with the flow more and surrender. any thoughts? Or how I can experience this empowering thought/feeling again? Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you. Sha.”
As the saying goes “You can’t step in the same river twice”. We live in a world of change, our thoughts and emotions change and each experience we have is unique. Even our memories get altered to some extent as the new information gets imprinted in our minds, hearts and in our neurology. It is possible to re-live some of the feelings by re-tracing the events that lead to the original experience, particularly when those feelings were intense. However, instead of chasing the elusive feelings, you may be better off focusing on your desired outcome, and allowing whatever happens to happen. When you struggle and strain, you may be actually blocking and chasing away the experience you’re after; when you are relaxed allowing whatever wants to happen to happen, you may be more likely to experience the feelings you are after.
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Loved your advice to just focus on your goal and go with the flow and let the good feeling of the old experience guide her onward. amber
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